You'd think I'd have learned my lesson by now

I looked at the childfree journal. Bleh.

The most obvious question is: if being "child-free" is your choice and everyone should respect that, then why isn't my being "child-happy" a respectable choice as well?

I don't bitch and rant about my clueless friends who have occasionally been VERY ignorant and disrespectful of my child-happy lifestyle. I assume they are just ignorant and try to school them.

Eh... most of those people are really just bitching about badly-behaved children/parents anyway. They are mostly upset by the usual-gang-of-idiots that spoil our landscape but they prejudicially lump those jerks into a category that includes plenty of perfectly nice and respectful people: parents.

Yeah yeah, I'm a breeder, but I rear my children to have some politeness (something sorely lacking in our society as a whole), dignity and respect for all life. I can't see that those people in that community have a lot of dignity or respect for others anyway. Just an unhealthy dose of embittered selfishness that lashes out at a conveniant target because of a bunch of fuckwits they encounter occasionally.

I hate spoiled/ill-mannered kids as much as anyone. I REALLY get angry about bad parenting. But I don't practice anti-breederism. A few (or even a bunch) of bad apples is not going to turn me prejudiced.

I'm a breeder purely by choice. I'm also not prejudiced by choice. MY choice, dig it?

You'll know I love you when...

1) you tell me you're tired and I tilt my head and say "aww, I know"
2) you walk away from me and I follow you quietly
3) you open your arms and I open mine automatically for the hug that is coming
4) you frown to yourself and I stop what I'm doing to look at you and say "do you need something?"
5) your stomach rumbles and I say "what would you like to eat?"
6) I clean your desk the next morning
7) you say "I don't have any money" and I say "so?"
8) I bring you a present and say "I saw this and knew it was for you"
9) you cry and I put my arms around you and stroke your head without saying anything
10) we disagree and I get excited - not angry
11) you make a juvenille joke and I laugh politely
12) I let you use my computer for more than an hour
13) I loan you my favorite book of the week and say "don't worry about it... bring it back whenever"
14) I loan you a CD
15) I give you something I just bought for myself instead of taking it back to the store when it didn't fit
16) I make food with onions in it
17) I make food with peppers in it
18) you make food with peppers and I eat any of it
19) I offer to get up early to help you do a chore
20) I put out my cigarette because I know you don't like them
21) I read a book in the same room you play a computer game I can't play
22) I mend your clothing
23) I iron something you need pressed
24) I clean your toilet
25) you want to tell me about something I am not interested in and I listen, don't interrupt and ask questions to learn about it too
26) you tell me a story I've heard before but I encourage you to tell it again
27) I am too shy to speak publicly about something special that happened to us
28) I let you keep your illusions
29) I give you new illusions that we can share
30) I tell you the quote that reminds me of you and it is forever "our special phrase"

Tere Bina

Sanoun ik pul chaiyNe na aaway
SajNna tere bina
Sanoun ik pul chaiyNe na aaway
SajNna tere bina

I am feeling anxiety every moment
My love, without you
I am feeling anxiety every moment
My love, without you


Dil kamla dub dub jaaway
SajNna tere bina


My foolish heart sinks sinks down
My love, without you


Khuda dushman kissay nouun ve hijar da roug na laway
Zamaana da taa’Nay judaai jaaN pae khaway


God, don’t let even an enemy suffer from love deprivation
Everyone is taunting and loneliness is making me hollow



Sanoun ik pul chaiyNe na aaway
SajNna tere bina

I am feeling anxiety every moment
My love, without you
I am feeling anxiety every moment
My love, without you


Bay qudray naal preetan la kai aihoun kujdee hoNna
SuljhiyaaN raawan takdiyaan rehNa, kaliyaN beh kai rouNna

Falling in love with a stranger, I faced the music
Gaze and stare simple and straight ways, and cry while sitting alone.

Sanoun ik pul chaiyNe na aaway
SajNna tere bina

I am feeling anxiety every moment
My love, without you
I am feeling anxiety every moment
My love, without you



Tun vi piyaasa mun vi piyaasa tainuun kol bullavan
Tooun aawain tay jaan na daaiwan jawain tey mur jaawaan

My body is thirsty, my heart is thirsty and I want to call you to come close
When you come I won’t let you go, when you go a part of me dies

Sanoun ik pul chaiyNe na aaway
SajNna tere bina

I am feeling anxiety every moment
My love, without you
I am feeling anxiety every moment
My love, without you