what I can say
Apr. 4th, 2012 03:39 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
smibboI'm distancing myself from people who have disappointed me in their ethics, morals and values.
We don't have to be the same in any of the three but you do have to be honest about yours and consistant. When you rant and rail against someone else breaking "your morals" then turn around do the same damned thing - "oh but this is DIFFERENT"
Then I do not want to be close to you. Because I have no idea if I'm going to be the next target of your "flexible" standards. Or someone I care about.
And all this time I've no idea if you have been judging ME for our differences.
Yes, I am not pleased if certain specific standards of ours are different and there's some non-negotiables but really its a matter of honesty.
Standards are what we hold even when its difficult.
Lastly, if you care about someone AT ALL, then you would check yourself whenever you might be doing something that would cause strife in their life. Even if it brings temporary pleasure, that's not an excuse to create problems for someone else. Even if it means denying yourself something nice, that's not an excuse to make someone elses life difficult.
“If you don't stick to your values when they're being tested, they're not values: they're hobbies.”
― Jon Stewart
We don't have to be the same in any of the three but you do have to be honest about yours and consistant. When you rant and rail against someone else breaking "your morals" then turn around do the same damned thing - "oh but this is DIFFERENT"
Then I do not want to be close to you. Because I have no idea if I'm going to be the next target of your "flexible" standards. Or someone I care about.
And all this time I've no idea if you have been judging ME for our differences.
Yes, I am not pleased if certain specific standards of ours are different and there's some non-negotiables but really its a matter of honesty.
Standards are what we hold even when its difficult.
Lastly, if you care about someone AT ALL, then you would check yourself whenever you might be doing something that would cause strife in their life. Even if it brings temporary pleasure, that's not an excuse to create problems for someone else. Even if it means denying yourself something nice, that's not an excuse to make someone elses life difficult.
“If you don't stick to your values when they're being tested, they're not values: they're hobbies.”
― Jon Stewart
