The case is over

[smibbo]

they lost their bid for custody. I had to negotiate visitation for them though and that was a bitter pill to swallow. The guardian yelled at me when I balked because she said "you would deny the kids their grandparents? Is that the kind of mother you want to be?" forgetting for the moment that it was not I who blindsided someone in a bid to take away their family! I never denied them visitation but I'm supposed to be all nice once they've lost and say "oh gee yeah sure take my kids for a weekend right after you just tried to steal them from me for no reason!"
We actually kind of wondered if she had been paid off by those rich snots.


feh. It's over and that's what counts I guess.

Comments

[goodjoan]

I am glad that it's over. I wonder if they have any idea how this has tarnished the way the boys look at them. They may be able to force you to let the kids see them, but they can't ever force them to love them and this whole thing has not gone unnoticed by the boys!

[hotcoffeems.livejournal.com]

"you would deny the kids their grandparents? Is that the kind of mother you want to be?" forgetting for the moment that it was not I who blindsided someone in a bid to take away their family! I never denied them visitation but I'm supposed to be all nice once they've lost and say "oh gee yeah sure take my kids for a weekend right after you just tried to steal them from me for no reason!" I get irritated as hell by that kind of thing too. It's emotional manipulation meant to appeal to you as the better person -- and of course you were leery; I would have been too (they sound so underhanded I'd be iffy on letting them have too much visitation). Also, frankly, being biologically related to someone does not make a person necessarily a good influence on one's life. I had wonderful grandparents, but I've also known people who had real horrorshows for grandparents -- and somehow the whole "I'm the grandparent" card was one those people liked to play a lot.

[not-hothead-yet.livejournal.com]

The guardian started off the initial meeting by saying "I didn't have grandparents so..."

I'm thinking "oh great, so I have to deal with someone who has a romantic vision of what grandparents are like"

*sigh*

I wish I'd had the presence of mind to retort "but they've been trying to deny the children their mother!" but you know, I just got all upset instead... like a typical ditzy mom!

Yay!

[satia.livejournal.com]

Okay. It stinks that they have visitation but you get to keep them and that is all that matters.

*big hugs*